Instances here in two years where I was wrong

Fight for food and catch her up in cheating and tell also kyun? made her cry once .. she was thinking ki chor hain kya. But inside was all information aise cheat karti hain hain toh kaise hoga. But actually that small here and there i could have let it pass.

(that Poori incident - where I went and said sorry too, went to nilesh also to ask to overcome guilt)

That ladoo thing why i had to prove there were 6 and not 4 she said woh to walk bhi karti hain to walker ki awaz hoti hain... my intenion was again if I can proved that we know.. she might stop doing diet cheat

Told her also we feel so guilty if we have to stop.. but we had to..

Like that 16th Jan : when I ab ho gaya mummy socha tha nahin boloongi but bolna pad gaya..

Like on lunch when I said.. ab to mera bhi khane se mann uth gaya hain.. daily fights ki wajah hain.. jo hain kabhi chup chap kha lo.. something like that

When In afternoon she was watching TV, and I got angry ki kyun dekh rahi ho.. Even nilesh supported mummy as she does not watch regularly : My issue she could have done something in the meantime and not just sat and watched tv.. like walked cooked or anything. But that expectation is itself so wrong.

Potty is i had to clean after her , i would tell her, and she would ask also.. i could have said nahin ekdum saaf tha, that would have avoided any shame for her. I shamed her.

There was no good I got from telling her.

Urine ki smell : used to tell her almost 3-4 days weekly whenever i would smell.. I could have left it.. would even tell her when she will say jyada kaam ho gaya-> ki diaper pehen lo.. Here Intention was that she wears.. but when she said rash hote hain.. then i would say cream laga lo.. yah raat bhar mat peheno only during TV>. but still I stretched it way too much.

Nilesh parents whenever she supported, I would fight more.. and she would say Sorry ab nahin bolungi.. but it was my own fear and guilt and I did not listen to her and made her feel sorry by saying ab kya fayada and all

when she asked choti to make subzi i said phir kya fayada and then explained it all too much to her too.. why did i say that.. intention was that she makes.. there was only hope that she works..does physical activity.. but otherwise also i could have kept silent

Did not say anything but did not talk to her after coming from beach.. as I was hoping she would make paratha but she was watching TV.. did not even make herself Tea.. I would feel guilty for that.. ie i wanted her to be up and running and that would make me so happy so I showed her attitude.. she might not have noticed as she was wtaching TV.. she asked kaisa tha.. I said theek. thats all

she said she cannot work like the way she used to - Need to ask if I fought or talked calmly

did i stop her from speaking when talking to ANkita and asked papa to say?

did I stop her from making kheer too much? did not take out sugar free kheer also even gajar halwa also.. why? it would not have made much differecne. she even had to ask meri kheer kahana hain sugar free wali and i said nahin nikali..

used to dance with ayu on saturdays morning and if she would come.. we will keep dancing and she would sit silently.. not sure if it was because it was morning and she needed some time or generally. I was ignoring her.

she said sorry to me many times.. why she had to?

fought with her for Ayansh.. ki usko time pey kahna nahin deti.. I snapped saying tum bhi to kabhi chodte hogi..s he said kabhi nahin even for four kids.. and i did not ebelieve it I think. But later ayansh stopped crying on getting food so she was right

I did not do any:

Be Willing to Compromise. Just because you are in a caregiving role, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t consider your parent’s point of view. It can be helpful to remember that you should always consider compromising. : I NEVER LISTENED TO HER

Don’t Be Confrontational: Ask, Don’t Tell. Approach touchy situations with caution. Perhaps the current issue at hand is that you have to take your mother’s car keys away from her. Instead of telling her that you’re taking away her keys, ask her how she is feeling about driving and if she has been having any difficulties. This allows you to approach the situation from a neutral perspective instead of from a confrontational one, which can make your parent feel less defensive. Ultimately, if you approach a touchy subject from neutral ground, your parent may be much less resistant and, in some cases, may even offer his or her own solutions. : I ALWAYS WENT HEADON . KHANA PADEGA, KHAO MUMMY< AISE NAHIN CHALEGA AND ALL THAT

Practice Reflexive Listening. Reflexive listening is the act of repeating what someone is saying and then offering your own solution. This is a very useful tactic for escalating arguments as it allows your parents to know they are being understood. NEVER LISTENED TO HER

Remain Calm. As with any argument, always remember to stay calm. If you don’t, you run the risk of escalating the argument further, which will not improve the situation. : IA M NEVER CALM